So, I’ve had a few asks on this topic lately, and I thought I’d impart some of my knowledge onto y’all. Here’s some of my most basic tips for doing the butt sex.
- Build up to it! I would not recommend try to start with penis sized things. It might take a few months of working up to it but it will help more than you know. Start with fingers, one or two usually, then maybe get a small/soft plug, and a few increasing in size. It’ll help if you do it alone and try and, ahem, ‘have a good time’ doing it.
- Use plenty of lube. Lube, lube, lube. There’s never too much lube (unless you’re trying to use a plug freehanded, in which case lots of lube will only make it slip out if it’s not tapered enough). I would recommend with all my heart that you purchase Ann Summers (or equivalent) ‘Booty Relax’ lube - it has numbing effects that take the edge off and make it feel much better.
- Stay clean. It might seem silly to even mention it but if you’re not feeling clean you won’t be able to relax, and relaxing is the most important part. Look into douches and ways to clean yourself in those places. Never use chemicals, soaps or perfumes that aren’t specifically designed to be used in your butt. Even then, be cautious, the best thing to use is warm water.
- Foreplay. Just like any sexual situation it’s easier and better when you get in a lot of foreplay. You may want to consider introducing light ass play into the bedroom before actually going all out. It could also be an idea to play with your own butt before your partner touches you, it’ll warm you up the way you know how to.
- Orgasms. I can’t stress enough how much orgasms help. If you want to go for anal on ‘round two’ trust me your body will be more relaxed and your muscles will be much more pliable. Orgasms whilst you are engaging in butt stuff will most likely be more intense - don’t let yourself panic! When you orgasm it can feel like you’re taking too much, but give yourself a moment to calm down before trying to move anything.
- Don’t do it unless you want to. If you find it doesn’t feel good, don’t pressure yourself, or be pressured by others. You might find it feels weird on your first few tries but it is an entirely new sensation. As long as you follow the tips above you will not hurt yourself, so don’t be afraid of that!
If you have any more specific anal sex related questions just shove them in my ask hole and I’ll tag everything with ‘butt advice’.